21 habits that will change you in 21 days, according to Mihai Morar
The professionalism of Mihai Morar, author of the Fain si Simplu podcast, about healthy and meaningful living is well known. Here are 21 tips for 21 days of becoming the best version of yourself, according to an expert.
“Our biggest problem with learning good new habits is our fear of big change. We are not designed for big, sudden changes. But we are designed to adapt. Let's change little by little. That's why "from tomorrow I will eat healthy food!" does not work. This is why we think that all good things are difficult. “Sports are not for me!” I suggest you calm down,” writes Mihai Morar.
He has compiled a list of 21 small habits that you can try to instill in yourself in 21 days. But once you try it, try to repeat it, if not daily, then as often as possible, because, as Mihai Morar says, “in life, repetition beats intensity.”
Day 1: READ AT LEAST A PAGE FROM A BOOK BEFORE BED. Don't try to read 30 or 50 pages. Aim to read only one page. But do it! Of course, it’s good if it’s more than one page. Repeat the same thing tomorrow.
Day 2: SAY A GOOD WORD. Today to my friend. Tomorrow just a stranger. The day after tomorrow, do a good deed. Nobody knows about it? Repeat, but don't strain. Good word - today. Good deed - tomorrow. Every day you will make the world a little better. But first of all, you will feel better.
Day 3: CHANGE YOUR TONE OF VOICE AND COMMUNICATION. Be careful when you speak. When someone seems to challenge you to react harshly, respond sarcastically or demean them, leave an “angry” comment, etc., train your inner self. Do not rush. Just breath.
Day 4: FILTER THE NEWS YOU RECEIVE. Keep not only your environment clean, but also the media around you. Fewer shocking headlines, more peace in life. Fewer scandals on screens, more personal peace of mind. The fewer “tough conversations,” the easier it will be for you. After a news detox, you will find that not only have you lost nothing, but you have even gained more.
Day 5: SLEEP BETTER. Today, just try to make sure that the last contact you have before you close your eyes isn't on your phone screen. Tomorrow night, try leaving him in a room other than your own. Replace contact with your phone with contact with your own body. Breathing is the best contact we can have with our body. Before going to bed, do some breathing exercises.
Day 6: CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE BY 1 HOUR. Stop looking down, that is, at the phone. Choose to look up or forward, left or right... Either way, but look beyond your phone. When you measure your phone habit, you will see that the world has become a little “wider” by a few centimeters.
Day 7: DINNER WITH FAMILY OR FRIENDS. We were not born to live alone or communicate virtually. We need belonging, a tribe. And your tribe consists of “those with whom you would share your last piece of bread.” For example, absolutely all Scandinavian concepts of happiness, but not only them, substantiate the idea of community for the well-being of the individual and the mental and physical health of a particular person.
Day 8: SEND A HUMAN LETTER. Get rid of the routine of electronic keyboard, emoji sending to your loved ones on WhatsApp. After a few lines, you will discover how many things you want to write to your loved ones that you never thought you would say.
Day 9: BUY A DIARY. And promise yourself that you will never use it for work. Take notes on what you read, what you think, what you live. Gradually, you can also turn your notes into a full-fledged diary. Handwriting is fuel for synapses, food for creativity. We remember what we write by hand, not what we type. Besides, penmanship is real therapy.
Day 10: WALK TEN MINUTES. Increase the time by 3-5 minutes every day. Then, if you feel like it, you can also speed up the pace. With small but confident steps, one day you can win the race. Firstly, the one that happens to you with yourself.
Day 11: LEARN SOMETHING NEW. Dancing, a craft, a foreign language, a sport you've never tried. Get out of your comfort zone. Learning at any age is the best way to slow down brain aging.
Day 12: MAKE SPECIAL TIME. For a loved one, friend, relative, colleague. Offer help or just chat. Time is the most valuable thing we have today. It has been proven that generosity increases the level of happiness, including that of the giver. Think how happy you will be when you give the most valuable gift: your time.
Day 13: BUY A NEW THING. When purchasing, be sure to throw away anything old and unnecessary. This way, the value of a thing to you will not just be the price of something on the shelf. Moreover, this habit also refers to observing the law of balance.
Day 14: GET ORDER AROUND YOU. The purpose of order is not to be clean, but to prepare you for what is to come. You have an organized desk and are ready to do better. You have your shirts in the closet, ready to leave the house on time tomorrow morning. You have a refrigerator full of clean foods and are ready for a balanced diet.
Day 15: PLAN A TRIP TO WHERE YOU'VE NEVER BEEN BEFORE. Travel and experience new places. Your trips do not have to be long and distant. Open offers to spend a weekend in your region or region and you will see how many interesting places you have never been to.
Day 16: ELIMINATE PROCESSED SUGAR FROM ALL MEANS. Can you do this tomorrow or the day after tomorrow? If you are patient and fight your sugar cravings for a few days, you will see how you feel afterwards.
Day 17: SUPPORT LOCAL BUSINESSES. Shop local, shop at your neighborhood store, and buy bread and vegetables from your area or region.
Day 18: TRY GUIDED MEDITATION. Lock yourself in a room, search for “guided meditation” on YouTube, put on your headphones and play. A couple of minutes. Don't be hard on yourself. Don't expect everything to work out perfectly the first time. There is time tomorrow too. And perseverance, of course, will win.
Day 19: THINK ABOUT THINGS YOU LIKED. Can you afford this item? Are you sure you want to take it? Okay, then wait a little longer: wait 48 hours.
Day 20: BEFORE BED, PLACE YOUR JUNKING SHOES NEXT TO YOUR BED. The next day you can wake up and put them on. But please do this every night before going to bed. Place them next to your bed. Many days in a row, weeks. One morning you will definitely wake up, put them on, tie your laces and go for your first run.
Day 21: 48 HOURS PASSED: DO YOU STILL WANT TO BUY THIS EXPENSIVE THING? Then give yourself this reward for all your new little good habits.
At the end of these 21 things and habits that need to be done and implemented starting tomorrow, Mihai adds: “This is the list that I offer you. You can adapt it as you wish, as long as you start working on your habits to become the best version of yourself.”
